The Impossible Dream to “I’ve Got a Dream” – Love and Character in Our Dream Catchers By Dr. Richard G. Lazar

From Windmills To Wind Turbines 1605 to 2013-The Same Lessons over 408 years

From Windmills To Wind Turbines
1605 to 2013-The Same Achiever Lessons over 408 years


Don Quixote to Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. – Leader – Achievers



The idea is this . . . superior leaders reduce conflict within us and between us. True leaders can be found in every place in our lives. True leaders bring people together when there is disagreement in order to Achieve High Order Goals. Conflict is disagreement. It is everywhere. Conflict is on a continuum . . . from a little to a lot to outright violence and killing. We can deal effectively early on with conflict, before it gets to boil and blurs the possibility of peace. The longer the Leader-Achiever waits and watches the boiler boil, the more likely the violence.


We spend far too much time, energy and resources in unhealthy conflict. Some conflict is healthy. That is when the discourse is on real issues not on name-calling and when issues get closed . . . with good feelings because each party involved got some new insights. It is unhealthy and far too prevalent when on opposing opinions, there is continuous name-calling, issues remain “open” and bad feelings continue without end.


Here’s where many of us older folks can lead more than we believe. We need to enrich ourselves and Achieve as Don Quixote did in Man of La Mancha. And, we can continue the work begun by Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.



My Recent Enrichment – Ideas and Skills to Achieve More


I submit this for study by future leaders, old and young. Grandparents can send this on to their kids if they want.


Very powerful insights have hit me like lightning right between the eyes. It goes like this. Whenever I believe that a conflict is caused by someone else, and it gets me upset enough to do battle or be defensive, I now know that the solution is in me . . . and not in winning a fight. Frankly, I have fallen down in the past few years . . . faulting others when I could have looked inside. Do You?


I know that only when I have peace and harmony in my own thoughts and feelings, is my spiritual and physical health and healing at its peak. Further, only then do I act rapidly on creative, productive and positive things and with good humor.


I now make internal decisions to pull myself away from bad thoughts and fearful feelings. I have control over them and will not allow negative thoughts to control or dominate my thoughts about the actions of others . . . no matter how much I disagree with or resent what they might be attempting to foist upon me or those I love. When I have faltered, my dear old friend Ken Sperling used to say, “It’s your own self-confidence, old buddy.” He was right again. I also knew that 2006 was a year loaded with heavy responsibilities, doubts, stresses, pressures, “dashed” hopes, and unfulfilled expectations. I think that I stood up fairly well . . . not as well as I would have liked however.


In 2007 I released and happily started to withdraw from almost all activity and people who I allowed to contribute to my distress. Achieving with or without Detractors. Finally I am armed with ways to “open up” as one insight from the Celestine Prophesy by James Redfield reveals and by “owning” the best in me more than the worst. Lessons my dear wife, Carôn, has been helping me grow towards for many years. Glad she’ll be around for many years to come! I know it.


I hope that if you have gotten this far that you might feel a personal connection to my experience, feelings and thoughts as I look back and forward now at 79 in 2013.



The Earned Joys of The Next Year


Every day I find myself gaining so much good by connecting more and more to the universe and by controlling and modifying my thoughts and actions to see more and more peace and joy unfurl in my life. My 72nd year was in 2006, and one of the toughest for me, and it has also sent me new opportunities and revealed more of the love that the God holds for me. For one thing, our humor column has spun off with Christopher Strong narrating our CD and Ebook for use with and for the mental and physical health of seniors and seniors-in-waiting. It is a great thrill to find that our “purified” jokes and stories can make a sea of grey hair become happy waves laughing out loud. Link to click here.


Man of La Mancha – Don Quixote


This play, based on Cervantes’ book Don Quixote in 1605 in Spain, has been one of the world’s longest lasting musicals. It also was listed in 2002 as “the best literary work ever written.” This is why Carôn and I went to see Man of La Mancha. I saw some other familiar older faces among the crowd who had also come to hear “The Impossible Dream” yet again. I was filled with the wonder of the old man’s optimism, love and unyielding belief in the purity of the lady Dulcinea who saw herself as only a low-life prostitute. Some have said of this story that the old man was delusional and did not live in reality. Sure, and maybe not. After all this old and feeble man led many others to change their lives and become living images of his better delusions by casting off the self-imposed limitations of their pitiful existences and to see their true high worth as unique individuals each able to reach for and move towards living the impossible dream. I hope that you are getting the point that it is never too late for you to dream and pursue that dream, your bliss and your passion even if others believe that you are off-course or “daft,” and then to continue on in “the quest to reach the unreachable star.” This is how to Achieve, yet another way.

Gomer Pyle (Jim Nabors) singing The Impossible Dream

YouTube video 3:53 minutes.



The Impossible Dream

(From Man of LaMancha, Lyrics by Joe Darion)

To Dream the Impossible Dream,

To fight the unbeatable foe,

To bear with unbearable sorrow,

To run where the brave dare not go,

To right the unrightable wrong,

To love pure and chaste from afar,

To try when your arms are too weary,

To reach the unreachable star.

This is my quest,

To follow that star,

No matter how hopeless, no matter how far,

To fight for the right, without question or pause,

To be willing to march into hell for a heavenly cause.

And I know if I’d only be true to this glorious quest,

That my heart will lie peaceful and calm when I’m laid to my rest.

And the world will be better for this,

That one man, scorned and covered with scars,

Still strove, with his last ounce of courage,

To reach the unreachable star.


I see today how close this was to another principle that I have taught for 30 years . . . Speak the Unspeakable to Change the Unchangeable. Achievers do it . . .Detractors don’t. Even if and especially if, it causes disagreement. Being more like this old man is key to my own contentment and the commitment to the solid skills and ideas in this blog, Lazar Achievement



Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.


Long have I loved the dream of this great leader. His dream was projected out to all. It made many of us much better people. His “unspeakable” words of love and character and his passion absolutely helped “change the unchangeable.” He led us to conceive of the promised land of peace and brotherly love. Unhappily some still don’t get it. It’s about conflict and leadership. Dr. King blew the whistle on our lackluster performance as Caucasian human beings. He was a man–a leader-for all of us, regardless of color . . . stolen from us before age 40 by someone who didn’t “get it.” He earned his leadership position by his words and actions. His goal was, and survives his physical body, for all of us to be the best we can be and to be the best we can be to all. W e can hear his call to Achieve.


For me it’s been a great ride starting in January 2007 until today in 2013. Make it so for you too.


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My old friend, Richard V. Clarke’s, daughter, circa 1965. A rare photo worth a thousand words.” This is the only copy available. Please feel free to share it. The March on Washington Aug 24, 2013 will be the 50th Anniversary of the first one in 1963

My old friend, Richard V. Clarke’s, daughter, circa 1965. A rare photo worth a thousand words.” This is the only copy available. Please feel free to share it. The March on Washington Aug 24, 2013 will be the 50th Anniversary of the first one in 1963

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About Richard G. Lazar, PhD

Quirky, confident and a bit whimsical. Tough and warm. Not old, just mature and ripe . . . even in retirement.